Last week, my Kuya Liam had their school's Recognition day!
He surprised both me and Papa when the award that he got was the Academic Excellence award! There are only five awardees in each class and only one got that award. He got a certificate and a gold medal for that.
Being new to everything we didn't know what to expect. Yes, we knew he'd be presented an award a simple certificate and that's it. Everything that happened that day was a surprise for all of us.
We were all happy of course!
As a proud parent, I shared a short video and a photo of his medal and certificate on my FB account. Real friends sent their warmest and sincere greetings and we, especially Liam was really happy about it!
I just find it unfair when after saying, "Congratulations, Liam!" may kasunod na, "teacher kasi nanay e!" or "Syempre, teacher nanay!" or"Kina-career kasi ng Mama!"
May iba, hindi na sinasabi pero yun ang iniisip!
Grrrr!
So what if he's a child of a teacher?!
So dapat, lahat ng anak ng teacher sa buong mundo puro honor students na, di ba?!
It just so happens that his mum's work is in the field of education!
I find it unfair for Liam.
He has really worked hard to achieve that.
If you have only seen him give up his "gadget time" or play time, even his afternoon naps so he can finish off a book, do extra activity, or finish his homework. This, in addition to balancing his time and energy as he also has tennis training and swimming!
My son got the award not because I am a teacher, but because he deserved it!
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Monday, December 2, 2013
Thursday, October 24, 2013
It is in Giving that We Receive
Money has never been an issue with me and hubby except if it involves sending money overseas especially to his parents. I have always embraced this mantra: our family first, our kids first before giving something to family in Manila.
Hubby being the eldest in their family and working abroad that is, feels that he has a responsibility to give assistance to their family back in Manila. All his siblings are all professionals but truth to be told, if we are compare their salary with his salary, of course he is in a better position to help his parents back home. Both my in-laws are long retired from their professions and to their credit, NEVER have they asked any money from us since we have migrated here.
Bringing my in-laws back here would mean that we had to spend for everything, from visa-application to fare to travel insurance. That was fine with me because we can get to save from childcare fees for Sammie when they are here. To make it easy on me I was just thinking that instead of using the money to pay childcare, we just used it for the fare of one of them.
When they got here of course it would mean additional budget for food and an increase in the utility bills -- gas, electricity and water. Not to mention the money we have to spend everytime we go out, we eat or visit places. That was fine with me especially with all the help we have been getting from them. I was not planning in giving them any allowances while they were with us but I guess God really works in ways we don't understand.
Aside from shopping for them and I just found myself telling Alvin that I'd be giving an allowance to Dad and Mum after their first week of stay with us. Yes, I volunteered! Milagro! I sensed Alvin was surprised too! hehehe Anyway, to make the long story short, we gave them allowance every week and I was giving it to them without a heavy heart. I felt good about the whole thing.
When my sister-in-law arrived, again, it was another opportunity to spend. I think I mentioned in my previous blog that with all the travels we have been making I am starting to get worried. I was worried because it was all spending, lahat palabas, konti lang ang papasok. I even told hubby that I wasn't doing any accounting with all our expenses! I was getting worried because my guaranteed teaching days (teaching blocks) were ending. Tapping on our savings was non-negotiable of course. But in my heart I know that God would provide.
During the last week of my parents-in-law I again felt the Spirit moving me and I again volunteered to prepare a little amount of money for Lolo Dad and Lola Mum. If it was the old Jeana, I'd probably wouldn't even have thought about it since we have already spent a lot for them. But I went with it. Along with our Thank You cards, we gave them that as a send-off present. Not only that, I felt like Santa I even thought of sending money too for his other siblings in Manila! Call it an early Christmas present! I don't know what was wrong with me! hehehehe Bahala na sila Lord. I gave it in good spirit and not with a heavy heart.
I was still worried though. I am only but human. But true enough, God proves that so long as you share, He will take care of the rest! As soon as we gave something be it in church, our chosen NGOs and most especially to our family, something comes back, instantly! Amazing indeed!
Tunay nga, kapag sarado ang kamay mo wala ka ng pwedeng matanggap kesa kung nakabukas ang mga palad mo, mas maraming biyaya ang matatanggap mo!
This whole thing of giving has been a loooong struggle for me. Slowly but surely I can feel that God is working in me, changing my heart, changing my views, changing my ways. And just when I thought I have fully learned this lesson and fully embraced this mantra, God taps me and tells me I'm not yet 100% okay, that He is not done with me yet. Yes, it's my parents' turn this time. It's their turn to be God's instruments of teaching me to embrace the fact that indeed it is in giving that we receive.
Hubby being the eldest in their family and working abroad that is, feels that he has a responsibility to give assistance to their family back in Manila. All his siblings are all professionals but truth to be told, if we are compare their salary with his salary, of course he is in a better position to help his parents back home. Both my in-laws are long retired from their professions and to their credit, NEVER have they asked any money from us since we have migrated here.
Bringing my in-laws back here would mean that we had to spend for everything, from visa-application to fare to travel insurance. That was fine with me because we can get to save from childcare fees for Sammie when they are here. To make it easy on me I was just thinking that instead of using the money to pay childcare, we just used it for the fare of one of them.
When they got here of course it would mean additional budget for food and an increase in the utility bills -- gas, electricity and water. Not to mention the money we have to spend everytime we go out, we eat or visit places. That was fine with me especially with all the help we have been getting from them. I was not planning in giving them any allowances while they were with us but I guess God really works in ways we don't understand.
Aside from shopping for them and I just found myself telling Alvin that I'd be giving an allowance to Dad and Mum after their first week of stay with us. Yes, I volunteered! Milagro! I sensed Alvin was surprised too! hehehe Anyway, to make the long story short, we gave them allowance every week and I was giving it to them without a heavy heart. I felt good about the whole thing.
When my sister-in-law arrived, again, it was another opportunity to spend. I think I mentioned in my previous blog that with all the travels we have been making I am starting to get worried. I was worried because it was all spending, lahat palabas, konti lang ang papasok. I even told hubby that I wasn't doing any accounting with all our expenses! I was getting worried because my guaranteed teaching days (teaching blocks) were ending. Tapping on our savings was non-negotiable of course. But in my heart I know that God would provide.
During the last week of my parents-in-law I again felt the Spirit moving me and I again volunteered to prepare a little amount of money for Lolo Dad and Lola Mum. If it was the old Jeana, I'd probably wouldn't even have thought about it since we have already spent a lot for them. But I went with it. Along with our Thank You cards, we gave them that as a send-off present. Not only that, I felt like Santa I even thought of sending money too for his other siblings in Manila! Call it an early Christmas present! I don't know what was wrong with me! hehehehe Bahala na sila Lord. I gave it in good spirit and not with a heavy heart.
I was still worried though. I am only but human. But true enough, God proves that so long as you share, He will take care of the rest! As soon as we gave something be it in church, our chosen NGOs and most especially to our family, something comes back, instantly! Amazing indeed!
Tunay nga, kapag sarado ang kamay mo wala ka ng pwedeng matanggap kesa kung nakabukas ang mga palad mo, mas maraming biyaya ang matatanggap mo!
This whole thing of giving has been a loooong struggle for me. Slowly but surely I can feel that God is working in me, changing my heart, changing my views, changing my ways. And just when I thought I have fully learned this lesson and fully embraced this mantra, God taps me and tells me I'm not yet 100% okay, that He is not done with me yet. Yes, it's my parents' turn this time. It's their turn to be God's instruments of teaching me to embrace the fact that indeed it is in giving that we receive.
Saturday, October 19, 2013
My Second Parents
How's your relationship with your in-laws? Hmmm, sensitive topic? I can't blame you. Time and again we have seen how society tried to show in different ways the love-hate relationship between in-laws. John and Marsha is one classic example, right?
I was not spared from this too!
Growing up, I saw how conflicts can arise between my Grandma and my Papa. When hubby and I got married, as soon as we got back from our honeymoon, we immediately stayed in a rented condo unit. So even if we have been bf-gf for five years before we tied the knot, there was no opportunity for me and my parents-in-law to really bond and get to know each other. (Five years is quite long you say not to know each other, right? Yes, but it is still different is you stay UNDER ONE ROOF everyday!).
The first time we really had to live under one roof was three years ago. Alvin and I asked them if they can come over to help us out at home as I was about to give birth to Sam. It was also an opportunity for them to have an out-of-the country trip and visit Australia the first time. My being OC and my being pregnant was a bad combination! To make things worse, we were all first timers! First timers to be together under one roof for six looooooong months!!!! I can only laugh and feel embarrased as I look back. Yes, it wasn't a bed of roses. I was always annoyed and I always had something to say! I got irritated with them so easily with the smallest error or boo boo they make. I got angry when they don't do it my way. Yes, I was a big pain in the neck! Surprisingly, we didn't have any confrontations or big fights. That, I give credit to them. Before they left Sydney, I apologised for being a B**** at times.
Honestly, I wasn't proud of myself. Inside, I wanted our relationship to work and not end up like that of my grandma and my Papa.
Fast forward to 2013. Learning from our previous encounter, we were both ready to be more patient, understanding and loving toward one another. I was also thankful that I had a full-time job because I felt it was an opportunity for me not to focus on the small things they might do that might irritate me. Months before they arrived, I was praying for myself! Yes, I did! Looking back I guess it worked, big time!
My friend Vera, knowing the history of my in-laws' first visit did ask how I was doing after a few days since arriving in Sydney. I told her I actually didn't know and I think I have mellowed. I was still not sure then since I was out most of the time due to work. After almost three months, I can safely say, I have indeed mellowed. This time around, I saw and got to appreciate my in-laws, big time! Working full time for two months was no big joke! I had to leave early for school and get home a bit late. It would have been a disaster if they were not around while I worked everyday. I had two extra pairs of hands to help me out in my duties at home including taking care of the kids.I am thankful that they were there to listen to my stories about work especially during the times I had to address two major concerns at work. They were my listening ears and my shock absorbers!
This time around, we bonded. We shared stories. It melted my heart to hear their stories when they were just starting their family. We exchanged our views about different things and we shopped together. This time around, I made sure to focus on the positives than the negatives. Oh, I still get irritated when our personalities and practices clash, but I have decided to choose my battles. In the end I think, it did pay off :-)
I will not take all the credit...not even half of it. I guess I've been blessed to have very good and down-to-earth in-laws. I now know where hubby got his innate goodness (kabaitan). They are not the type who are "matampuhin" or "madrama" kapag nasungitan mo na. You can be vocal about what you like and what you don't like without them having a grudge on you. Hindi nagtatanim ng sama ng loob. As for my mother-in-law? She knows that there should only be one Queen in each home and she knows that it's me! She is not a demanding mother. She does not try to grab the spotlight or her son away from me or the kids. She knows her place and she proved it through her actions. I know, I should be thankful.
This morning when we were praying over them before their flight back to Manila, I can't help but cry. Alvin was even blaming me why he started crying too! Becoming a parent makes you realise a lot of things. Seeing their child pray over them and seeing them enjoy the things their son was able to give them melted my heart. Seeing your offspring successful and contented with his life is I guess the best reward any parent can have. I just can't help but think about my own kids...when they have their own families and kids. I want to be like my parents and my in-laws. I want to enjoy my retirement, I want to enjoy my grandkids, I want to enjoy the labour of love I have put in raising my kids -- not really financially, but the joy, contententment and the respect. I want to feel all of those when I am already old and grey. I can't have that if what I sow in them is hatred or anger to my in-laws. My kids will see, my kids will feel, my kids might think that it's the right thing. I believe in karma. Baka pagnagsungit or binastos ko ang in-laws ko, balang araw baka makatagpo ako ng manugang na gawin din sa akin yun.
Like in so many other times, I am thankful for the opportunity to realise all of these things. I am thankful for the opportunity to learn from this part of my journey. I am thankful for the opportunity I had to be closer to my in-laws.
I miss them already!
Yes, I have learned to love my in-laws :-)
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
The Beauty Of Having A "No"
Most often than not, when we pray about something, we always hope (or expect?) that God would give us a "yes." Years ago, I was like that. Looking back at my journey, I can now only smile on the times I had a "No" from God. Now, I am even thankful that He said No to some of my prayers in the past. Time they say will reveal everything and true enough, now I am seeing the wisdom and understanding the reasons why He had to say No.
There were a lot of no's but my biggest ones?
He said no when I told Him let me finish my Dentistry course.
He said no when I asked Him to fix my previous relationship.
He said no when I said I didn't want to finish my Master's degree.
He said no when I said I wanted to defer my Certificate Course on Religious Ed here in Sydney.
He said no when I said I didn't want to finish my Master's degree.
He said no when I said I wanted to defer my Certificate Course on Religious Ed here in Sydney.
He said no when I asked Him I wanted to be a mum straight away after getting married.
He said no when I asked Him I wanted a full time job in Australia.
He said no when I asked Him to give Alvin an engineering job straight away in Australia.
And recently, He said no when I asked Him to have our annual family travel to the US.
Looking back, I now know:
He said no so I can be stronger.
He said no so I can be more faithful.
He said no so I can be a witness to others.
He said no so I can inspire others.
He said no so I can be wiser.
He said no to prepare my path.
He said no to help me with my future.
He said no to show me what great and bigger plans He has in store for me.
It took me years to realise why He said no. He said no so I can have what I have now and appreciate all of it too.
I know that the waiting part is hard, harder to do than say, but if you just open your eyes and your heart, believe me, in the end it will all be worth it.
So embrace the no's in your life. They are all part of His plan. They are blessings in disguise.
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
Fireproofing Our Marriage
It's been crazy busy the past few weeks. Family coming over to have a quick Sydney holiday prompting us to have day long-drives around the State, inter-State and day trips within the City. Tiring and a bit expensive but I'm not complaining, a little worried yes, but happy. Not only were we able to bring our visitors to these places, my family was also able to spend time with one another. At the end of the day, I'm a happier wife and mum.
It's been a while since I last wrote not because I didn't have the time but I didn't have the inspiration to write. Well, now I do.
Last night, during our upper Household Prayer meeting, we watched the movie, Fireproof. Have you watched it? Well, if you haven't, try watching it WITH YOUR SPOUSE.
Here is the official trailer of the movie.
STOP!
Don't read on if you do not want any spoilers. But if you're intrigued, read on :-)
It basically is about a couple who were undergoing rough times in their married life on the verge of divorce when hubby, with help of his Dad, tried to save their marriage. There are a lot of points and quotes from the movie that are worth reflecting not only for one's self but as a couple...one of the reasons why I liked the movie. The group had a quick sharing after the movie but even when we were driving home, Alvin and I can't stop discussing about the movie.
Let me share some of the quotes from the movie:
I tried to Google the movie quotes and chanced upon one blog that really wrote the quotes. What a great find! I can now go back and reflect on each one at a time :-)
The best lessons for me:
“Fireproof does not mean that a fire will never come. But that when it comes, you’ll be able to withstand it.”
“God made marriage to be for life. That’s why you gotta keep your vows to your spouse. You gotta ask God to teach you how to be a good husband/wife. And don’t just follow your heart, because your heart can be deceived. But you gotta lead your heart.”
" You never leave your partner, especially during a fire."
“When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits, and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her, he often stops learning about her. If the amount he studied her before marriage was equal to a high school degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gains a college degree, a master’s degree, and ultimately a doctorate degree. It is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever close to hers.”
Highlight of the movie was the husband's journey of discoveries and transformation as he tried to save their marriage. His father gave him a 40-day challenge and lucky me, I chanced upon another blog that listed the 40 day- challenge Caleb had to do to save their marriage.
After finishing the 40-day challenge and his wife discovers about it, she asked what day he's in. When he mentioned it's already Day 43. Wife is confused why he's still in to it, he says: "Who says it should stop at 40 days?"
Yup, we can always do something to improve our marriage, everyday.
True enough, marriage is a never ending learning process. You may be married for a long time now but you will still never run out of opportunities to learn new things together.
So if you and hubby finally decide to watch the movie, prepare the box of tissue!
Enjoy :-)
It's been a while since I last wrote not because I didn't have the time but I didn't have the inspiration to write. Well, now I do.
Last night, during our upper Household Prayer meeting, we watched the movie, Fireproof. Have you watched it? Well, if you haven't, try watching it WITH YOUR SPOUSE.
Here is the official trailer of the movie.
STOP!
Don't read on if you do not want any spoilers. But if you're intrigued, read on :-)
It basically is about a couple who were undergoing rough times in their married life on the verge of divorce when hubby, with help of his Dad, tried to save their marriage. There are a lot of points and quotes from the movie that are worth reflecting not only for one's self but as a couple...one of the reasons why I liked the movie. The group had a quick sharing after the movie but even when we were driving home, Alvin and I can't stop discussing about the movie.
Let me share some of the quotes from the movie:
I tried to Google the movie quotes and chanced upon one blog that really wrote the quotes. What a great find! I can now go back and reflect on each one at a time :-)
The best lessons for me:
“Fireproof does not mean that a fire will never come. But that when it comes, you’ll be able to withstand it.”
“God made marriage to be for life. That’s why you gotta keep your vows to your spouse. You gotta ask God to teach you how to be a good husband/wife. And don’t just follow your heart, because your heart can be deceived. But you gotta lead your heart.”
" You never leave your partner, especially during a fire."
“When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits, and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her, he often stops learning about her. If the amount he studied her before marriage was equal to a high school degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gains a college degree, a master’s degree, and ultimately a doctorate degree. It is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever close to hers.”
Highlight of the movie was the husband's journey of discoveries and transformation as he tried to save their marriage. His father gave him a 40-day challenge and lucky me, I chanced upon another blog that listed the 40 day- challenge Caleb had to do to save their marriage.
After finishing the 40-day challenge and his wife discovers about it, she asked what day he's in. When he mentioned it's already Day 43. Wife is confused why he's still in to it, he says: "Who says it should stop at 40 days?"
Yup, we can always do something to improve our marriage, everyday.
True enough, marriage is a never ending learning process. You may be married for a long time now but you will still never run out of opportunities to learn new things together.
So if you and hubby finally decide to watch the movie, prepare the box of tissue!
Enjoy :-)
Friday, August 30, 2013
Financial Harmony
It's Friday and I'm blogging! Hurrah!!!!!
I have so many things to write, there are so many things I want to write but for this entry, I will only be focusing on what hubby and I learnt just last weekend.
For starters, the tension between us has been building up the last two months when it came to my "need" to travel. It's a very long story and it would take ages for me to finish writing about it but to make the long story short, I was starting to get frustrated and annoyed because he just can't seem to understand where I am coming from. I am thankful I was able to let go off some steam when I had a chat with one of my friends, who like me, enjoys travelling. She gave some inputs but listening alone to my rants was more than enough. Among the things we both agreed on was for me to pray about it. And I did.
No, I did not pray that hubby would change his mind and agree with all my crazy plans...but I prayed for myself and for the ill feelings I was starting to have inside me. I and my friend had the chat Saturday, Sunday morning I felt I was ready to submit to what hubby wants provided I tell him all the reasons why I would like to travel. I knew where hubby is coming from especially being that he is the head of the family but I did not understand his reasons. All I wanted was for him to see and accept all my reasons as valid. I wanted him to understand where I am coming from. But I still waited and continued to pray. The answer came the next day. I was surprised to receive the answer that soon! While browsing through my Instagram account, I chanced upon a reflection for couples entitled: Financial Harmony by Gary Chapman.
Boom!
I e-mailed it to hubby.
The following morning while preparing for work, we both discussed about it. Hubby said his piece and I said mine. I guess I was already emotionally prepared to hear what he had to say unlike the past couple weeks where every time he tries to explain his side what I just heard were interpreted as being negative. Killjoy. Discussing about it was a big relief but the best part of it all? Hubby ended our conversation with: "Okay, let's meet halfway."
Now I have come to terms to holding and waiting for what I want with no ill feelings whatsoever. Even if we will still be travelling I am not pushing the idea unlike before. I haven't started planning and I don't plan to :-) As they say, good things come to those who wait.
Happy weekend everyone!
I have so many things to write, there are so many things I want to write but for this entry, I will only be focusing on what hubby and I learnt just last weekend.
For starters, the tension between us has been building up the last two months when it came to my "need" to travel. It's a very long story and it would take ages for me to finish writing about it but to make the long story short, I was starting to get frustrated and annoyed because he just can't seem to understand where I am coming from. I am thankful I was able to let go off some steam when I had a chat with one of my friends, who like me, enjoys travelling. She gave some inputs but listening alone to my rants was more than enough. Among the things we both agreed on was for me to pray about it. And I did.
No, I did not pray that hubby would change his mind and agree with all my crazy plans...but I prayed for myself and for the ill feelings I was starting to have inside me. I and my friend had the chat Saturday, Sunday morning I felt I was ready to submit to what hubby wants provided I tell him all the reasons why I would like to travel. I knew where hubby is coming from especially being that he is the head of the family but I did not understand his reasons. All I wanted was for him to see and accept all my reasons as valid. I wanted him to understand where I am coming from. But I still waited and continued to pray. The answer came the next day. I was surprised to receive the answer that soon! While browsing through my Instagram account, I chanced upon a reflection for couples entitled: Financial Harmony by Gary Chapman.
Boom!
I e-mailed it to hubby.
The following morning while preparing for work, we both discussed about it. Hubby said his piece and I said mine. I guess I was already emotionally prepared to hear what he had to say unlike the past couple weeks where every time he tries to explain his side what I just heard were interpreted as being negative. Killjoy. Discussing about it was a big relief but the best part of it all? Hubby ended our conversation with: "Okay, let's meet halfway."
Now I have come to terms to holding and waiting for what I want with no ill feelings whatsoever. Even if we will still be travelling I am not pushing the idea unlike before. I haven't started planning and I don't plan to :-) As they say, good things come to those who wait.
Happy weekend everyone!
Thursday, August 22, 2013
Finding Something Good
I have been literally been staying on bed the past couple of days. "Inihiga ko talaga" because I have been barking like a mad dog the past couple of days, coupled with blocked or sometimes runny nose, migraine and a few episodes of fever. Not happy, big time!
Well, I and the kids learned a good song from one of the cartoons we watched a month ago. The line goes "If something bad happens, turn it around, find something good!" That is what precisely what I am doing or what I have been doing to keep me sane.
What are the good that turned up after me getting sick?
I got to catch up on my reading.
I got to do a lot of play based learning I have been planning to do with Kuya Liam and Sam.
I got to have whole body massages from Papa A every night! It did help me get a good night's rest and sleep.
I got to see how my kids love me. Sam giving me a balloon before going to school and Kuya Liam writing a love letter for me.
I got to let go of my oc-ness some more, keeping my eyes closed with the mess at home and the chores at that. What do you know, hubby stepped up and took over! Kaya naman pala eh!
I got to pray and reflect more.
I got to realise a lot of things:
- I am thankful for my in laws. Ours is not a perfect and harmonious relationship everyday of our lives especially with the personality differences but I would like to give them credit because they have been a great help to us especially the past couple of days! I was telling my friend, I might be "dead" by now if they were not around when I got sick. Not only when I got sick but during the time I started with my five week teaching block. Extra-- My MIL also knows there should only be one Queen in every home, so for that alone, I'm thankful. ;-)
-The gift of today. Yes, I am the type who loves to plan things ahead of time. But hey, I should slow down now and enjoy what the present has to present. The class I was handling taught me the real meaning of one day at a time.
- I cannot go work full time again. With the pressure and stress that went with me taking over one class for five weeks was a big wake up call! Nope, in this kind of set-up, the many little things that needs to be done everyday, taking my time from my kids? No. I got to appreciate my being a casual more when I can easily turn down an offer over a more important family matter. I don't plan to miss out on special school events of my kids! Just let me get over with my accreditation and I'm all set to slow down. Three days a week is good for me. If there are teaching blocks, the longest I can take is two weeks. More than that? No.
-Health is wealth. I think I need not expand on that.
Do you find yourself in a bad situation? Turn it around, find something good, you might be surprised of what you'll discover.
Thursday, October 18, 2012
So Many Things
I'm making a quick blog entry this morning while waiting for Hi5 to finish and start another work day for me.
There has been a lot of events and things to write about but so little time. I want to write about our weekends and my first week as a full time teacher (for two weeks).
I want to finish reading my book A Thousand Splendid Suns and catch up on reading parenting magazines.
Hay. Hehehe :) I'm choosing not to stress. I know that I'll have all the time soon to do all those things.
Happy day everyone!
Monday, June 25, 2012
If Only
If only I could tell the entire story here. But I can't.
It's a story of how hubby has made me proud again! For the nth time! I have never been this proud of hubby.
I can't write it here because hubby requested me so, a humble man that he is.
Given the choice, I would have written the whole story here but I understand where he is coming from. Nothing is definite yet and baka nga maudlot.
More than that what I actually want to write is the affirmation that God is sending us, that He is in control and will take care of us.
Ok just to have an idea, it is about work. I will not write everything but only up to the part why I continue to admire hubby!
Last Friday he was summoned to his boss' boss office. He was surprised. He was more surprised when they told him why he was there. He was gobsmacked during the meeting but that meeting gave him the push and boosted his self-confidence more!
To make the long story short, whatever transpired inside that office and whatever they told him was a reflection of hubby's performance at work. That the quality of work he delivers doesn't go unnoticed! He has been in the company for only two years and doesn't even have a permanent status, and yet.....(sorry, can't!).
On our way to our prayer meeting last Friday, he was teasing me "see, ikaw lang walang bilib sa akin eh!" If only he knew! Well, on the more serious note this time, he said: "Si Lord talaga, when you ask something, He opens a lot of opportunities. Sabay-sabay pa."
We are very much okay even if things don't push through. We are okay with the recognition he got. We know that it will be best for us (we are constantly praying as to where He will lead us). But if ever it does, it will be one whole new adventure, not only for him, but for all four of us!
Nothing is definite yet. Right now, he gave me an assignment to research more on (sorry can't!) We are, after all, still keeping our options open. If this one pushes through though, it will be one whole new ballgame! I'm scared because it will be another adjustment for all four of us, but we will just cross the bridge when we get there.
Right now, I just want to share how hubby makes me proud.
For the longest time, I have had issues on being called Mrs. Balintec (especially that I am a teacher). Admit it, it's not that pleasant to the ears, right?
But now? Your guess is as good as mine.
Way to go Papa, you continue to make me and your kids proud!
It's a story of how hubby has made me proud again! For the nth time! I have never been this proud of hubby.
I can't write it here because hubby requested me so, a humble man that he is.
Given the choice, I would have written the whole story here but I understand where he is coming from. Nothing is definite yet and baka nga maudlot.
More than that what I actually want to write is the affirmation that God is sending us, that He is in control and will take care of us.
Ok just to have an idea, it is about work. I will not write everything but only up to the part why I continue to admire hubby!
Last Friday he was summoned to his boss' boss office. He was surprised. He was more surprised when they told him why he was there. He was gobsmacked during the meeting but that meeting gave him the push and boosted his self-confidence more!
To make the long story short, whatever transpired inside that office and whatever they told him was a reflection of hubby's performance at work. That the quality of work he delivers doesn't go unnoticed! He has been in the company for only two years and doesn't even have a permanent status, and yet.....(sorry, can't!).
On our way to our prayer meeting last Friday, he was teasing me "see, ikaw lang walang bilib sa akin eh!" If only he knew! Well, on the more serious note this time, he said: "Si Lord talaga, when you ask something, He opens a lot of opportunities. Sabay-sabay pa."
We are very much okay even if things don't push through. We are okay with the recognition he got. We know that it will be best for us (we are constantly praying as to where He will lead us). But if ever it does, it will be one whole new adventure, not only for him, but for all four of us!
Nothing is definite yet. Right now, he gave me an assignment to research more on (sorry can't!) We are, after all, still keeping our options open. If this one pushes through though, it will be one whole new ballgame! I'm scared because it will be another adjustment for all four of us, but we will just cross the bridge when we get there.
Right now, I just want to share how hubby makes me proud.
For the longest time, I have had issues on being called Mrs. Balintec (especially that I am a teacher). Admit it, it's not that pleasant to the ears, right?
But now? Your guess is as good as mine.
Way to go Papa, you continue to make me and your kids proud!
Saturday, June 16, 2012
Building Memories
We had our usual household prayer meeting last night and for our discussion, Alvin and I decided to show them the presentation: Interview with God.
This was not the first time I watched the presentation because it was used in one of our faculty prayer sessions at the Ateneo Grade School. The presentation is simple and yet for me, it was very powerful. That I think, is the reason why after more than ten years, I still remember it.
Going back to my story, for our sharing and discussion, we asked our members what part of the presentation struck them the most. We all agreed that there were so many things that you can actually use for reflection, but among all of it, the one that stood out in our reflection last night was the one saying: You worry too much about the future that you forget about the present, therefore, you don't get to live in the present nor the future.
Our other brothers and sisters gave very good sharing and their personal insights, we were all learning from each other. As parents to two very young kids, we can't help but get worried about too much. I think that is very much understandable. But the recent deaths of friends became instrumental for a change of heart for me. We spend too much time and energy building for our future, not realizing the reality of life being so temporary. That this day might just be our last day.
Last night's prayer meeting also became an avenue for me to explain to hubby why sometimes I want us to discuss the "what ifs" ... the "what if I am or he is taken already, abruptly (touchwood)."
Bottomline, hubby and I, decided that starting today, we will try to build more memories with our children. We will not wait for long weekends for us to make beautiful and happy memories. I cannot say that we will not be worried anymore, but we are placing our trust in Him. After all, He only has good things prepared for us. We want to make sure that (touchwood) when we are taken too soon from our children, we have made enough memories of us (with them and good memories at that!) for them to have and cherish, until they grow up.
When worrying does catch up on us, I will remember my favorite Gospel reading: Mathew 6: 24-35. It does wonders for me. It affirms me that all will be well and removes all the worries.
P.S. Tomorrow, we will continue making memories with our kids. Instead of eating out, we decided to bring our lunch out to the park. We will have barbie and a very simple family picnic :) Liam will be bringing his scooter. Hoping that the sunny weather forecast tomorrow will be accurate so we can enjoy our family time again :)
This was not the first time I watched the presentation because it was used in one of our faculty prayer sessions at the Ateneo Grade School. The presentation is simple and yet for me, it was very powerful. That I think, is the reason why after more than ten years, I still remember it.
Going back to my story, for our sharing and discussion, we asked our members what part of the presentation struck them the most. We all agreed that there were so many things that you can actually use for reflection, but among all of it, the one that stood out in our reflection last night was the one saying: You worry too much about the future that you forget about the present, therefore, you don't get to live in the present nor the future.
Our other brothers and sisters gave very good sharing and their personal insights, we were all learning from each other. As parents to two very young kids, we can't help but get worried about too much. I think that is very much understandable. But the recent deaths of friends became instrumental for a change of heart for me. We spend too much time and energy building for our future, not realizing the reality of life being so temporary. That this day might just be our last day.
Last night's prayer meeting also became an avenue for me to explain to hubby why sometimes I want us to discuss the "what ifs" ... the "what if I am or he is taken already, abruptly (touchwood)."
Bottomline, hubby and I, decided that starting today, we will try to build more memories with our children. We will not wait for long weekends for us to make beautiful and happy memories. I cannot say that we will not be worried anymore, but we are placing our trust in Him. After all, He only has good things prepared for us. We want to make sure that (touchwood) when we are taken too soon from our children, we have made enough memories of us (with them and good memories at that!) for them to have and cherish, until they grow up.
When worrying does catch up on us, I will remember my favorite Gospel reading: Mathew 6: 24-35. It does wonders for me. It affirms me that all will be well and removes all the worries.
P.S. Tomorrow, we will continue making memories with our kids. Instead of eating out, we decided to bring our lunch out to the park. We will have barbie and a very simple family picnic :) Liam will be bringing his scooter. Hoping that the sunny weather forecast tomorrow will be accurate so we can enjoy our family time again :)
Monday, May 28, 2012
Tummy bug
For three days now, I and the kids have been victims of yet another episode of the tummy bug.
I feel so weak already. I'm having problems when I stand up, my heartbeat goes too fast. I feel like I'm going to faint anytime.
This time there were no vomiting episodes. Only lbm episodes. Although I got to lose two kg instantly in just two days, I think I already lost too much electrolytes that's why I feel so weak and sluggish.
Good thing this day I've seen some improvements on our condition. But my usual appetite is still not back hehe.
Even if I feel I'm in the road to recovery, I feel that my body had already taken its toll on me. I want to take a break from all my other duties. Cooking, cleaning, driving the kids to Gymbaroo and Soccajoeys. I just feel my body needs to recover. I need to recharge again to be back my usual self.
Actually told it to hubby and he's okay with it...I even turned down work because I'm still not fit.
Starting today until Friday, I'm calling in sickie.
Staying Positive
This will be short and simple.
I just didn't realise you'll stoop that low.
I guess I was expecting more from you. More character put into action.
You've proven me wrong once more.
This, I think is the last straw.
Life is too short to waste our time and energy to people who just bring negative vibes. I actually just wasted my time writing this blog entry. But this will be the last.
With the sad news I continue to receive of close friends suddenly passing away, I am committed to choose happiness.
I am determined to stay positive and to keep it that way.
Monday, May 21, 2012
"Be Still, I'm in Control"
I feel that this is God's present message to me.
Earlier this week, Alvin told me that his manager already gave them a heads up as to when their contract will expire. They have until August. Guaranteed. So that leaves us with only 3 months. Scary, huh?
Scary!
Especially that my work is only on a casual basis. Alvin, as usual was still cool and relaxed as his boss said that he would still enquire in the hr if his contract had chances of still being renewed (because of pending projects) so that he doesn't have to spend time and energy looking for a new job, if only in the end his contract will be renewed. Alvin feels and is confident that his will be.
Anyway, we're still not sure until he gets to sign the contract, right? In the same manner that it doesn't help that almost every week we see news of big companies, mostly in the construction field though, but still, closing and announcing bankruptcy. The economic instability of some European countries adds up to the possible reasons of my worries.
But it's weird, because in spite of all these news, I am not finding myself worrying. No anxiousness, no fear. I am actually surprised myself. I don't think about it. I get to have good sleep at night.
I guess I've already come to that state where I know God is taking care of everything. Anything bad that might happen along the way is part of His greater and better plan for us and our family.
I am still Lord, for I know you are in control. You are in charge.
I am keeping the faith.
Saturday, May 19, 2012
The Beauty in Death
Death.
It becomes so real when it comes to take people who are dear to you. People who have been part of your journey.
But it is not all ugly.
There is beauty in death.
It teaches you lessons. It reminds you of the more important things. It makes you treasure the loved ones you have now. It makes you hold their hands tighter. Hug them longer. Tell them "I Love You" more often.
You try to live your life making the right choices. Choices that will really matter in the end.
Death.
A reminder that our life and the life of our loved-ones is really not forever.
Death.
Thank you Tito Nick, you have taught me to value my family better. To overlook weaknesses and selfishness. To choose to love and to be happy. To be strong and to choose to fight.
Thank you Raewen. You were taken too soon. I am still overwhelmed with your sudden loss. You have taught me to value my children more. To overlook their imperfections. To overlook my tiredness. To choose to serve and to be more patient.
I know that you two are now in a much happier place.
Thank you for the lessons you have taught me.
Be at peace now, for you are now with HIM.
It becomes so real when it comes to take people who are dear to you. People who have been part of your journey.
But it is not all ugly.
There is beauty in death.
It teaches you lessons. It reminds you of the more important things. It makes you treasure the loved ones you have now. It makes you hold their hands tighter. Hug them longer. Tell them "I Love You" more often.
You try to live your life making the right choices. Choices that will really matter in the end.
Death.
A reminder that our life and the life of our loved-ones is really not forever.
Death.
Thank you Tito Nick, you have taught me to value my family better. To overlook weaknesses and selfishness. To choose to love and to be happy. To be strong and to choose to fight.
Thank you Raewen. You were taken too soon. I am still overwhelmed with your sudden loss. You have taught me to value my children more. To overlook their imperfections. To overlook my tiredness. To choose to serve and to be more patient.
I know that you two are now in a much happier place.
Thank you for the lessons you have taught me.
Be at peace now, for you are now with HIM.
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
Wanting to Remember
I started writing blogs for two reasons: one, I enjoy writing and two, I was kind of hoping to earn extra through blogging.
Thankfully, there is no need for me to write blogs in order to earn. I get to write now because I love and enjoy it and it also serves as my breather from the daily grind of life.
After almost four years of blogging, there seems to be another reason emerging as to why I continue to chronicle my journey: I want to remember.
I'm pretty sure you are familiar with the novel The Notebook. Well if you haven't read it I'm sure you've watched the film.
Having Alzheimer's Disease runs in the family. My father's immediate aunt and my father's own sister were diagnosed to have one. So I am open to the idea that I might have it too in the future. It doesn't help that at the age of 33, I have had 3 major operations that needed general anesthesia.
Because of this possibilty, I now write because years from now, when I am old and gray, and who knows with Alzheimers, I would like to have something to help me remember how my life was before. On how I have lived my life. On how my journey went. I would love Alvin to read it to me as well, just like in The Notebook.
But Alzheimers or no Alzheimers, I'm sure years from now, I will be very happy with the decision I made, of writing my journey to remember all the happy and sad stories and the choices I made.
Hopefully, there will be no regrets, only lessons learned and lessons to be taught in the next generations :)
Wednesday, May 2, 2012
Super SAD Day
Today, I lost my engagement ring.
Today of all days!!!!!!
When I've two loads of laundry, cleaned and vacuumed the car, been to K-mart, cleaned the house, been to the dentist and to the market.
I only discovered it this afternoon on my way home from the dentist and market. I was only 5 minutes away from home when I accidentally discovered it was missing. I was still waering the ring, but the diamond was missing. So it's like the ring already lost its essence.
I want to cry now.
Hubby knew about it as soon as I arrived home. He called and tried to comfort me.
He even sent follow-up text messages to make sure I'm okay and to not worry about it.
It's not him getting mad at me (he didn't ok?) that makes me upset.
It is the value of the ring. (Ok, it is only 0.25 ct, but the cut was very clear, Alvin didn't buy it from Binondo, so it's not yellowish, the effort that Alvin had to do so he can spend for it ...)
The sentimental value of it. (The way Alvin researched about engagement rings and his search for the perfect ring for me, as he told me. It would have been 8 years old come 29 May, the day he propsed to me.)
I even treasure it than my wedding ring.
I'm upset big time. Hubby is still hopeful it's just at home or in my bag.
Even if he replaces it, it's still different to have the original one, the one he gave me when he proposed.
I was planning to give it to Sam or Liam as a family heirloom, since my mom's engagement ring is with me up to now.
Sad. Just sad.
I hope we can really still find it here at home.
Today of all days!!!!!!
When I've two loads of laundry, cleaned and vacuumed the car, been to K-mart, cleaned the house, been to the dentist and to the market.
I only discovered it this afternoon on my way home from the dentist and market. I was only 5 minutes away from home when I accidentally discovered it was missing. I was still waering the ring, but the diamond was missing. So it's like the ring already lost its essence.
I want to cry now.
Hubby knew about it as soon as I arrived home. He called and tried to comfort me.
He even sent follow-up text messages to make sure I'm okay and to not worry about it.
It's not him getting mad at me (he didn't ok?) that makes me upset.
It is the value of the ring. (Ok, it is only 0.25 ct, but the cut was very clear, Alvin didn't buy it from Binondo, so it's not yellowish, the effort that Alvin had to do so he can spend for it ...)
The sentimental value of it. (The way Alvin researched about engagement rings and his search for the perfect ring for me, as he told me. It would have been 8 years old come 29 May, the day he propsed to me.)
I even treasure it than my wedding ring.
I'm upset big time. Hubby is still hopeful it's just at home or in my bag.
Even if he replaces it, it's still different to have the original one, the one he gave me when he proposed.
I was planning to give it to Sam or Liam as a family heirloom, since my mom's engagement ring is with me up to now.
Sad. Just sad.
I hope we can really still find it here at home.
Saturday, March 24, 2012
A Different Purpose
Migrating in Sydney was mainly because we wanted a better future for our family, especially our children.
This realization dawned upon me when the hubby of my godmother got sick of Colon Cancer. They didn't ask, but knowing how expensive medical treatments are, we knew we had to help.
Then one event, led to another. A high-school reunion, a family in need, a brod in need, an ANCOP scholar back home, a friend who cannot work because she suffered a stroke after giving birth, public school children, a high school classmate who in my surprise e-mailed me to ask for financial help (I was the only one on the list who is not part of their barkada. Actually, I was emotionally "bullied" by their group back in high school, so I was really surprised when I got the mail, but past is past :D). We gave, no questions asked. Even if it meant that our savings for our future projects might be delayed a bit. I am thankful that hubby and I are both okay with this. I am grateful that our parents taught us this value and showed the way for us.
We have been blessed. We don't have too much extras, but we will live. It is also good to share that what we give are not our excess. It's not as easy knowing at the back of your mind that you also need what you are giving. In the same manner that it's a struggle to give without expecting anything in return from THE GIVER, our BIG BRO. These events allowed me to reflect and realize, now that things are slowly falling into place, with God's grace, there is another reason why He allowed us to go here. We are here for another purpose. It is much more than what we have planned. We didn't even anticipate that we will be in this position.
Years ago we were in the receiving end, well, I was. Now it's time to pay it forward.
We are humbled. At the end of the day, we are mere instruments of HIS blessings.
This realization dawned upon me when the hubby of my godmother got sick of Colon Cancer. They didn't ask, but knowing how expensive medical treatments are, we knew we had to help.
Then one event, led to another. A high-school reunion, a family in need, a brod in need, an ANCOP scholar back home, a friend who cannot work because she suffered a stroke after giving birth, public school children, a high school classmate who in my surprise e-mailed me to ask for financial help (I was the only one on the list who is not part of their barkada. Actually, I was emotionally "bullied" by their group back in high school, so I was really surprised when I got the mail, but past is past :D). We gave, no questions asked. Even if it meant that our savings for our future projects might be delayed a bit. I am thankful that hubby and I are both okay with this. I am grateful that our parents taught us this value and showed the way for us.
We have been blessed. We don't have too much extras, but we will live. It is also good to share that what we give are not our excess. It's not as easy knowing at the back of your mind that you also need what you are giving. In the same manner that it's a struggle to give without expecting anything in return from THE GIVER, our BIG BRO. These events allowed me to reflect and realize, now that things are slowly falling into place, with God's grace, there is another reason why He allowed us to go here. We are here for another purpose. It is much more than what we have planned. We didn't even anticipate that we will be in this position.
Years ago we were in the receiving end, well, I was. Now it's time to pay it forward.
We are humbled. At the end of the day, we are mere instruments of HIS blessings.
Thursday, March 1, 2012
mums need to be tough
It is no surprise.
Last Wednesday when I left my kids at the care of my friend because I needed to go to work, both of them cried.
It was much better to see them just cry but seeing them trying to not to cry at all and put on a brave front, was much harder for me.
It was too much for me to bear.
It got thru me.
On the way back to the parking, I cried.
What else can I do?
This is life.
I realized that I need to be tough, for them.
I realized that I can teach them to be tough and face life's adversities by being tough myself.
I can only pray that my son can really understand all the reasons we have been telling him, as to why we leave them on childcare.
I pray and hope that this experience will not cause any harmful effects when he grows up.
I hope that I can be as tough as I need to be.
Simple fact: Mums need to be tough.
I am a mum, so I NEED to be tough.
Last Wednesday when I left my kids at the care of my friend because I needed to go to work, both of them cried.
It was much better to see them just cry but seeing them trying to not to cry at all and put on a brave front, was much harder for me.
It was too much for me to bear.
It got thru me.
On the way back to the parking, I cried.
What else can I do?
This is life.
I realized that I need to be tough, for them.
I realized that I can teach them to be tough and face life's adversities by being tough myself.
I can only pray that my son can really understand all the reasons we have been telling him, as to why we leave them on childcare.
I pray and hope that this experience will not cause any harmful effects when he grows up.
I hope that I can be as tough as I need to be.
Simple fact: Mums need to be tough.
I am a mum, so I NEED to be tough.
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Taking It Slow
I didn't make any new year's resolutions. It's not my habit or practice to do so. So my decision to take it slow was not really deliberate. I just felt that my 2012 started beautifully because I am finding myself more relaxed.
There are still chores to be done everyday but I unusually don't stress myself anymore :-) And I unusually don't prepare things now super way ahead of time! Lol :-) Am I cramming? Is two days or a day before considered cramming? :-)
What do I do with my extra time? I do the things that I love. I read, I write, I fix stuff at home which is unusually therapeutic for me, I do FB, I watch movies, I watch with my kids TV, I read to my kids, we go to the library, we go to the nearby park, we go around the compound, I take afternoon naps with them, we wake up late in the morning, all 3 of us take a shower together, I play with my kids! I don't even stress myself with the cooking anymore unlike before that I have to cook everything before mid day :-) Maybe because Sam also does understand things now and it's easier to talk and request things from her, or Liam is more responsible now, or I am taking it slow :) well, I guess it's all three!
There are pending projects -- Sam's first birthday photobook (which I will be ordering from Manila since I prefer the hard/board pages like what we had for Liam's, than the ones we have here in Syndey); my papers for NSW IT and CEO Parramatta (re-instatement and application letters); fixing our finances (scheduling payments), visit to the GP (routine check-up for the kids), centrelink and Yogies. I have started a few of these but haven't really finished all of them. For some weird reason, I don't feel that thing anymore -- "the feeling as if I'm going to the die if I don't finish it on the day!" lol :) not to mention rur family's major projects this year... :)
Things are getting better :)
There are still chores to be done everyday but I unusually don't stress myself anymore :-) And I unusually don't prepare things now super way ahead of time! Lol :-) Am I cramming? Is two days or a day before considered cramming? :-)
What do I do with my extra time? I do the things that I love. I read, I write, I fix stuff at home which is unusually therapeutic for me, I do FB, I watch movies, I watch with my kids TV, I read to my kids, we go to the library, we go to the nearby park, we go around the compound, I take afternoon naps with them, we wake up late in the morning, all 3 of us take a shower together, I play with my kids! I don't even stress myself with the cooking anymore unlike before that I have to cook everything before mid day :-) Maybe because Sam also does understand things now and it's easier to talk and request things from her, or Liam is more responsible now, or I am taking it slow :) well, I guess it's all three!
There are pending projects -- Sam's first birthday photobook (which I will be ordering from Manila since I prefer the hard/board pages like what we had for Liam's, than the ones we have here in Syndey); my papers for NSW IT and CEO Parramatta (re-instatement and application letters); fixing our finances (scheduling payments), visit to the GP (routine check-up for the kids), centrelink and Yogies. I have started a few of these but haven't really finished all of them. For some weird reason, I don't feel that thing anymore -- "the feeling as if I'm going to the die if I don't finish it on the day!" lol :) not to mention rur family's major projects this year... :)
Things are getting better :)
Friday, September 9, 2011
Gentle Reminders
Funny how sometimes we get gentle reminders from people or strangers about things that we take for granted.
Last night over dinner, Alvin arrived after a few minutes of starting dinner with the kids. He was asking each one of us as to how our day went. When he asked me how my day was, I didn't reply. Liam told me: "Mama, are you not talking with my Papa? You talk with my Papa." --> a reminder for me than even if I am already dead tired or nothing special happened that day, I should take initiative or do my share of keeping our communication lines open.
Last night, while watching TV, reading a book and using my tablet (I don't know how I was doing it, but I was doing all 3 at the same time) Liam was telling me something. I just kept on nodding my head and saying yeah, until he told me: " Mama, you are not talking with me!" And as if it was not enough, he jumped on my lap, cupped my face into his tiny hands and told me again:"Mama, you are not listening to me!" Ouch! Bulls-eye!Now he really has my full attention! --> We cannot really underestimate the feelings and how intelligent kids are nowadays. Liam knew that even if I was just seated beside him, I was not really with him. A gentle reminder for me that I should spend quality time with my kids, engage and really connect with them, because they will know when I am faking it.
Lastly, just this morning at the shops. A stranger (a grandma), after showing her fondness with Liam and Sam addressed me: "You have beautiful children. Enjoy them now, time flies so quickly. Before you know it, they're out of the house!" Then she said goodbye. Wow. What else can I say? She must be talking from experience. --> A gentle reminder for me to just be patient with the next 4-5 years...that I will have all the "me" time that I need, the "us" time that hubby and I need, the long and uninterrupted sleeps that we wish...to enjoy all the moments that I have with my children now. It's much easier said than done, especially if you don't have helpers or yayas to leave your kids so I can have my day off...but I will try :-)
Funny how God sometimes uses other people to send His message across. Well Lord, thank you for Your gentle reminders :-)
Last night over dinner, Alvin arrived after a few minutes of starting dinner with the kids. He was asking each one of us as to how our day went. When he asked me how my day was, I didn't reply. Liam told me: "Mama, are you not talking with my Papa? You talk with my Papa." --> a reminder for me than even if I am already dead tired or nothing special happened that day, I should take initiative or do my share of keeping our communication lines open.
Last night, while watching TV, reading a book and using my tablet (I don't know how I was doing it, but I was doing all 3 at the same time) Liam was telling me something. I just kept on nodding my head and saying yeah, until he told me: " Mama, you are not talking with me!" And as if it was not enough, he jumped on my lap, cupped my face into his tiny hands and told me again:"Mama, you are not listening to me!" Ouch! Bulls-eye!Now he really has my full attention! --> We cannot really underestimate the feelings and how intelligent kids are nowadays. Liam knew that even if I was just seated beside him, I was not really with him. A gentle reminder for me that I should spend quality time with my kids, engage and really connect with them, because they will know when I am faking it.
Lastly, just this morning at the shops. A stranger (a grandma), after showing her fondness with Liam and Sam addressed me: "You have beautiful children. Enjoy them now, time flies so quickly. Before you know it, they're out of the house!" Then she said goodbye. Wow. What else can I say? She must be talking from experience. --> A gentle reminder for me to just be patient with the next 4-5 years...that I will have all the "me" time that I need, the "us" time that hubby and I need, the long and uninterrupted sleeps that we wish...to enjoy all the moments that I have with my children now. It's much easier said than done, especially if you don't have helpers or yayas to leave your kids so I can have my day off...but I will try :-)
Funny how God sometimes uses other people to send His message across. Well Lord, thank you for Your gentle reminders :-)
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