Fireproofing Our Marriage

It's been crazy busy the past few weeks. Family coming over to have a quick Sydney holiday prompting us to have day long-drives around the State, inter-State and day trips within the City. Tiring and a bit expensive but I'm not complaining, a little worried yes, but happy. Not only were we able to bring our visitors to these places, my family was also able to spend time with one another. At the end of the day, I'm a happier wife and mum.

It's been a while since I last wrote not because I didn't have the time but I didn't have the inspiration to write. Well, now I do.

Last night, during our upper Household Prayer meeting, we watched the movie, Fireproof. Have you watched it? Well, if you haven't, try watching it WITH YOUR SPOUSE.

Here is the official trailer of the movie.

STOP!

Don't read on if you do not want any spoilers. But if you're intrigued, read on :-)

It basically is about a couple who were undergoing rough times in their married life on the verge of divorce when hubby, with help of his Dad, tried to save their marriage. There are a lot of points and quotes from the movie that are worth reflecting not only for one's self but as a couple...one of the reasons why I liked the movie. The group had a quick sharing after the movie but even when we were driving home, Alvin and I can't stop discussing about the movie.

Let me share some of the quotes from the movie:

I tried to Google the movie quotes and  chanced upon one blog that really wrote the quotes. What a great find! I can now go back and reflect on each one at a time :-)

The best lessons for me:

“Fireproof does not mean that a fire will never come. But that when it comes, you’ll be able to withstand it.”

“God made marriage to be for life. That’s why you gotta keep your vows to your spouse. You gotta ask God to teach you how to be a good husband/wife. And don’t just follow your heart, because your heart can be deceived. But you gotta lead your heart.”

" You never leave your partner, especially during a fire."

“When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits, and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her, he often stops learning about her. If the amount he studied her before marriage was equal to a high school degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gains a college degree, a master’s degree, and ultimately a doctorate degree. It is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever close to hers.”

Highlight of the movie was the husband's journey of discoveries and  transformation as he tried to save their marriage. His father gave him a 40-day challenge and lucky me, I chanced upon another blog that listed the 40 day- challenge Caleb had to do to save their marriage.

After finishing the 40-day challenge and his wife discovers about it, she asked what day he's in. When he mentioned it's already Day 43. Wife is confused why he's still in to it, he says: "Who says it should stop at 40 days?"

Yup, we can always do something to improve our marriage, everyday.

True enough, marriage is a never ending learning process. You may be married for a long time now but you will still never run out of opportunities to learn new things together.

So if you and hubby finally decide to watch the movie, prepare the box of tissue!

Enjoy :-)

Financial Harmony

It's Friday and I'm blogging! Hurrah!!!!!

I have so many things to write, there are so many things I want to write but for this entry, I will only be focusing on what hubby and I learnt just last weekend.

For starters, the tension between us has been building up the last two months when it came to my "need" to travel. It's a very long story and it would take ages for me to finish writing about it but to make the long story short, I was starting to get frustrated and annoyed because he just can't seem to understand where I am coming from. I am thankful I was able to let go off some steam when I had a chat with one of my friends, who like me, enjoys travelling. She gave some inputs but listening alone to my rants was more than enough. Among the things we both agreed on was for me to pray about it. And I did.

No, I did not pray that hubby would change his mind and agree with all my crazy plans...but I prayed for myself and for the ill feelings I was starting to have inside me. I and my friend had the chat Saturday, Sunday morning I felt I was ready to submit to what hubby wants provided I tell him all the reasons why I would like to travel. I knew where hubby is coming from especially being that he is the head of the family but I did not understand his reasons. All I wanted was for him to see and accept all my reasons as valid. I wanted him to understand where I am coming from. But I still waited and continued to pray. The answer came the next day. I was surprised to receive the answer that soon! While browsing through my Instagram account, I chanced upon a reflection for couples entitled: Financial Harmony by Gary Chapman.

Boom!

I e-mailed it to hubby.

The following morning while preparing for work, we both discussed about it. Hubby said his piece and I said mine. I guess I was already emotionally prepared  to hear what he had to say unlike the past couple weeks where every time he tries to explain his side what I just heard were interpreted as being negative. Killjoy. Discussing about it was a big relief but the best part of it all? Hubby ended our conversation with: "Okay, let's meet halfway."

Now I have come to terms to holding and waiting for what I want with no ill feelings whatsoever. Even if we will still be travelling I am not pushing the idea unlike before. I haven't started planning and I don't plan to :-) As they say, good things come to those who wait.

Happy weekend everyone!