Going Against the Usual

I was actually inspired to write something about Vday after reading my friend's blog. Hey Mitch, I had a good laugh with your blog, Valentine's Day 2013. Yes, nakakaumay nga hahaha

So here's my share of Vday stories :)

I had work that day so I had to get up earlier than usual.

While the kids slept, Alvin and I had breakfast together, coffee and kwentuhan. It was one of those rare moments for us, so for me it was already our Vday date. Hehehe

What about gifts?

Not making an excuse or anything, I'm not expecting anything from Alvin. I have reached the point in our relationship where I have realized that my husband shows me how he loves me, everyday. He gives me gifts and lets me buy things I like even if there is no occasion. More than the material things, he makes and does a lot of small things, which for me are big proofs that he loves me!

That is what actually inspired me to write a poem for him, as my Vday gift.

I actually made a simple poem for Alvin. I've long planned about it. But since I was working that day I decided to just email it to him hehehe I thought sending him an e-mail that day with that poem was still a surprise, right? :)

I customised the poem: How Do I Love Thee....

My poem went like this:

How do you love me?

Let me count the ways....

You love me when.....

...and then I listed down all the small things he has been doing for me and the kids like waking up early at weekends to cook breaking for us, watching a movie with me which he really doesn't like, making me coffee in the morning, making me movie snack at night time, getting me a cold glass of water when he's all set to sleep, when he takes charge of the kids when he gets home from work, when he puts up with all my craziness and mood swings whenever I have my PMS...when he gives me massages, when he doesn't disturb me when I'm eating and the kids need some washing after the use of the toilet...and the like...I listed a lot ;)

My purpose? I just wanted to let him know that I remember all those "small things" he has been doing and I appreciate all of it. All of it goes to show that he really loves me ;) I'd rather have those "small things" than having a bouquet of roses for Vday :)

He was bubblier when he got home. He thanked me for the poem and told me that he liked it. And believe it or not, it worked wonders hehehe I've seen him doing more of those "small things" because he probably realized that I was taking notice of his efforts.

Anyway, even if I wanted to share it, I deliberately didn't because I knew almost everyone will be sharing something about Vday hehehe. Like what my friend Mitch said, sandamakmak nga ang posts about flowers, cards and dates lol :)

Anyway, he still had something during our HHPM the next day. The hubbies gave each of the wifeys a long-stemmed tulip and honoured us before our discussion.

Happy to hear hubby say how he appreciates me and how I bring out the best in him :)

There, my Vday might have been ordinary, but who needs that one day of expensive flowers, chocolates, fully-booked restaurants, when we can make everyday Vday, right?

V-day Everyday

Romance is definitely in the air! With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, who wouldn’t get love sick? Let’s admit it, a few weeks before the V-day; most couples are busy preparing for their exchange of gifts. Most if not all, are thinking how to make this special day more special. Some propose for marriage, some have romantic dinners; some even go out of town, just as so they can say that they celebrated the V day with their loved one.

Some single men and women try to have a date before the special day. Who would want to be alone on this special day? When couples become more thoughtful to one another, when couples become sweeter to one another, when everyone around you looks so much in love?
It is a sad fact that most people, well, sometimes, including me, become a “victim” of this “feast” I think that Valentine’s day and the way we celebrate it has been exaggerated over the years. Talk about consumerism. I believe that each day should be Valentine’s Day. Don’t you think that the quality of relationships we have will be much better if we think as such?

It just occurred to me, that we can make an effort to make Valentine’s Day more special, each day, and not just on February 14. Why will we wait for this day for us to write a letter that expresses our deepest appreciation and love to our partner, spouse, parents or even kids? When all throughout the year, we can make even a very simple note on the post-it to write the three magical words -- I Love you? Why will we wait for February 14 to send our loved ones a single rose or a bouquet of flowers when you can surprise him or her with the same act any day of the week? You can even just pick a flower in your garden and write a simple note when you give it to her. You can even leave it some place in the house, where you’ll know he’ll definitely see it when she gets back from work, or after bringing the kids to school. Believe me you can save a lot as well! Why will we wait for V-day to hug or to kiss our loved ones, when you can do that everyday! As for romantic dinners? You can avoid the long queue outside those five-star hotels or expensive restaurants if you can surprise your loved ones on a special dinner treat on an “ordinary day” to celebrate your love for one another. You can even cook the dinner by yourself!

Well, most people might not agree with me. Some would probably argue that the feeling is still different if you receive the flowers or go out on a date on the actual Valentine’s Day. Probably yes, but you have a choice. But I bet, that if you do the things I have just mentioned a habit, meaning, you do it not just on Valentine’s day, most probably than not, you wouldn’t join the trend of the millions of people trying to make just this one day out of the 365 days that we have in a year, more special for their loved ones!
Again, every day should be Valentine’s Day.