Call me a late bloomer, but yes, I am.
After six seasons on the boobtube, I finally found myself being addicted to Desperate Housewives.
The TV series is now on it's seventh season and suddenly I find myself enjoying the show. Why the sudden turn of events? Maybe I can already feel for them...maybe I can find myself in their characters.
Now that I am a full time wife and mum, I am going agog over the so many little things (this is aside from the big ones okay?) that needs to be done at home. I just can't understand why men do not seem to "see" them when they are around.
I see my traits every now and then in all of them, but among the housewives I can very much see myself with Lynette Scalvo the most. She is the housewife that has the most kids and a seem "perfect" family. She has a strong character, dominating at time, and a husband that looks like an underdog most of the time. She likes to have order and she wants things organized. SHe is a doting mother she is an independent woman.
There was one episode which had Lynette and Tom were discussing why Lynette let an opportunity pass to "boast" about her husband. It ended her telling Tom that she is tired of people saying how lucky she is for having Tom as her husband, but not one have mentioned how lucky Tom is to have her as his wife! Paw! Bulls-eye! I mean, for the longest time, people come up to me and tell me how lucky I am to have Alvin as my husband...but not one seems to notice how lucky he is to have me as his wife! Kainis?! I mean with EVERYTHING that I have been doing. During weekdays when he gets home, halos lahat tapos na. The kids are ready for bed time, clean and everything and in an hour or 30 minutes, they are already asleep. I just leave the dishes used for dinner for him to wash, or else wala na siya talaga gagawin. The thing is sometimes instead of saying "thank you" first, mauuna pa yung criticism niya. I tried to correct this habit of him a few times and I can see that he does try to remember it. I sacrifice waking up late in the weekends so I can get things done, so when he does his duties, he can still get to do things he wants to do during weekends, so he can spend more time with the kids. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying I am a perfect wife. I know that he himself have a lot to say about my flaws and weaknesses as a wife and a mum as well but like me, we tend to look at the more positive traits than the negative ones. But sometimes, I just want to zap out and stop being a super mum and super efficient wife! Wishful thinking. Sometimes I just wonder what he would feel if I'll be gone in his life just for one day. I mean everything all left to him. Just for one day. Again, wishful thinking. But actually, I already told him last time, that I knew what I will be losing in my life if he'll be gone, but I asked him if he knows what he'll be missing if I go.
On one episode, the two of them had this big fight and Lynette was so fuming mad at Tom. They were not in speaking terms until Lynette saw how their kids have grown and their family as a whole. Yes, we have our flaws and weaknesses, but seeing our children allows us to forgive and "forget" -- to overlook our indifferences. To move on and keep trying to be better.
And on the last episode I just watched, Lynette and Tom decided it was time for their twins to move out and learn about living, it was hard for her to see her boys leave but it was the best for their children. I guess I have that same attitude, wheret try as I might to shield my children from the reality of life, the sad and bad ones, I know that I have to let them aware of what is happening so they will be better prepared. Life, after all, is not really a bed of roses. So if they have to experience pain like accidentally bumping head while playing, to learn how to be safe and careful next time, then so be it. If they have to lose a toy because they were not taking care of it, then so be it. I know that in the long run, it would do them more good.
Lynette. Oh , I just love her character. She makes me laugh, she makes sigh, she talks and speaks for me, she entertains me :)
